Six Tips for Handling Unstructured Summers

Ah, summer break. No bells, no bus schedule, no backpacks by the door — just a giant, wide-open stretch of time and a house full of kids who suddenly need you to entertain, referee, and feed them roughly every eleven minutes. By day three, "we have nothing to do" has been said approximately 400 times, and somehow it's only 10 a.m.

Here's the good news: you don't need a color-coded schedule to survive this. You just need a few tips to maintain your sanity. I polled our team of Occupational and Speech Therapists and adapted them to work in the mom routine I know.

By Aimee Murray (Tired mom of 2 boys), Grace & Danielle (OT), Alise (Speech)

July 22, 2026

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1. Put Your Own Oxygen Mask On First

You know that airplane safety speech — help yourself before you help others? Turns out it applies just as much at 6 p.m. when everyone's cranky and dinner's still cooking.

My go-to move: the after-dinner walk around the block. It burns off the kids' leftover energy, gets me my steps, and somehow resets everyone's mood before bedtime chaos begins. And on the nights that don't work? I tap out and go wash my face. It's ridiculous how luxurious two minutes at the sink can feel when you're running on fumes. You can't pour from an empty cup, so summer isn't the time to skip your own refill.

2. Legitimize Pajamas as Summer Outfits

I never thought I'd be the parent who lets her kids leave the house in pajamas, and yet — here we are, and it's fine.

When we're running late and I truly do not have the energy for a wardrobe negotiation, here's the deal: brush your teeth, and the pajamas can come along for the ride. Nobody's hurt, nothing's on fire, and I've saved myself a fight I didn't need to have. Save your energy for the battles that actually matter.

3. Even Free Time Needs a Little Downtime

Here's the plot twist nobody warns you about: unstructured days don't always mean less activity. Sometimes it swings the other way, and suddenly you've gone from the park to the pool to a friend's house with zero breathing room in between — and somebody melts down by 3 p.m.

Some kids really do need a pause button between activities before they can handle the next thing. So even when it'd be easier to just keep the momentum going, build in a little quiet time on purpose — a slow morning, a post-lunch lull, whatever works. It's not wasted time. It's what keeps the rest of the day from falling apart.

4. Keep Mealtimes Predictable (Even If Nothing Else Is)

Summer has a sneaky way of turning "let's eat whenever" into an all-day snack free-for-all — which is especially rough if you've got a picky eater or a kid who's worked hard on feeding progress you don't want to lose.

The fix doesn't have to be complicated: just keep meals and snacks happening at roughly the same times every day, even if literally everything else about the schedule is chaos. Kids relax when they know food is coming on a predictable beat, and it keeps old habits from sneaking back in.

5. Take the Messy Stuff Outside

You know the toys. The ones that make you wince the second your kid pulls them out because you already know where the bits are going to end up. Play-Doh. Paint. Glitter, heaven help us.

Good news: if the weather's cooperating (and lately, it really has been), none of that has to happen inside. Move it to the driveway, the backyard, the patio — wherever the hose can reach. Same fun, zero cleanup dread. Let the sunshine do the work your vacuum usually has to.

6. Sneak Speech Practice Into Play

If your kid's working on tricky sounds, summer is the perfect excuse to make practice feel like a game instead of homework.

Try this: laminate cards with the sounds or phrases they're working on, clip a paperclip to each one, and use a plastic fishing rod with a little magnet on the end to go "fishing" for them. Or bury the cards in a bin of sand, water, or foam and let them dig for treasure. Add a little sensory magic — sand, water, foam, whatever — and suddenly the "chore" of practice turns into something they actually ask to do again.

Any of these tips resonate? Share in the comments below!